I was walking on campus with a rather beautiful and sexy friend of mine I noticed that we got helped more quickly and with bigger smiles than when I was alone sans my arm candy.
I am convinced more than ever that sexy beautiful people have much easier lives than those who are on the heavier end of the scale and those who are less aesthetically appealing
People can say what they want, when you are heavier you are treated like a cow that's making its way through the meadow, people see you but they would rather look the other way. Mina Moo is cute for a few minutes but no one wants to see her all day.
When you are hefty, you have to be more funny, louder and you have to have an amazing personality just to be consider worthy. Whereas thin beautiful people are given attention just merely based on their looks, they don't have to say anything or even think. No really cares if they have an opinion on current affairs or if they have a pleasing personality. Cherokee is not well admired for her intellect!!! *hides* .All they do is just be.
Little experiment have a fuller and more rounder person order a burger at Mickey Dees the first thing that comes to people's mind is: why are you eating this, you should really have a salad. Should an ultra slim I-will-never-get-fat person order double their body weight in Quarter Pounders, the response will be, poor thing is probably hungry.
Another thing that makes thin people better is their self given right to tell others they are fat. I have noticed that it's more common nowadays to have the audacity to tell someone that they are fat and for some unfathomable reason one is supposed just accept this departure from basic manners and etiquette.
It's pretty evident that sexy, thin beautiful people have no real problems because well nothing batting their eyelids and looking pretty can't solve. If they think they have problems they should try a free drink at a club or getting away from a traffic officer without a ticket, with their beautiful souls! It's near impossible.
In my salad days as demmie/student assistant I noticed how those who had more boob than brains were assisted more readily. Those who had more brawn than functional braincells got the attention of the opposite sex and miraculously always finished early.
I honestly think such people should allowed to be themselves, no use getting upsetting because you were last in the queue when looks were be lavishly handed out to others. Just get a doctorate because your looks aren't going to take you places.
P.S Beautiful people do enjoy winning the genetic lottery! Hehe
Thursday, 27 September 2012
Monday, 17 September 2012
The Discovery Invest Leadership Summit 2012
After nearly four years of wishing, hoping and entering competitions in hope of attending The Discovery Invest Leadership Summit, I finally won the ticket thanks to the summit's twitter #JustAsk Competition. After a long 6 hour bus ride I arrived at Park Station and made the long trek through Park Station to the Gautrain Park Station.
The following were the speakers that spoke at the event
Adrian Gore
(CEO of Discovery Health)
Garry Kasparov
( Chess Grandmaster turned Political Activist)
Pravin Gordhan
(Our Current Finance Minister)
Sir Terry Leahy
(CEO (former) Tesco)
Professor Tim Noakes
(Professor of Sports Science)
He brought Chad Le Clos as a surprise to the great delight of audience
Professor Michael Porter
Panel Discussion( Sizwe Nxasana- Ceo of First Rand Limited, Stephen Koseff- Ceo of Investec Group and Richard Gnodde- Co CEO of Goldman Sachs)
Tony Blair
(Former UK Prime minister)
Absence of Archbishop Emeritus Desmond Tutu.
I guess it's what makes The Arch Bishop world renowned, his unwavering belief in his values and sticking them out.
Venue
The venue is your standard high brow meeting hall. The facilities were of a high standard and it be joined to Sandton City via the Skywalk was a definite plus.
Food
What can I say? The quality was great and so was the variety. I still believe that I could have made better muffins.
Delegates
I saw a few of my idols in various areas of society from your Eusebius McKaiser(Intellectual and Debating Extraordinaire to Mondli Makhanya ( Editor of Sunday Times), Dr Precious Moloi Motsepe and many other wonderful people.
Many thanks to the following people I met at the Summit: Bharti, Lara, Phindie, Michael, Christopher, Lwazi and Sipho. I had a groupie moment which rendered me completely speechless when I saw Eusebius McKaiser and Mondli Makhanya arm's length away. I greeted Dr Precious Moloi-Motsepe and she greeted back (sheds tears of joy)
Thanks to The Discovery Invest Summit for the ticket and an experience of a life time.
The following were the speakers that spoke at the event
Adrian Gore
(CEO of Discovery Health)
Garry Kasparov
( Chess Grandmaster turned Political Activist)
Pravin Gordhan
(Our Current Finance Minister)
Sir Terry Leahy
(CEO (former) Tesco)
Professor Tim Noakes
(Professor of Sports Science)
He brought Chad Le Clos as a surprise to the great delight of audience
Professor Michael Porter
Panel Discussion( Sizwe Nxasana- Ceo of First Rand Limited, Stephen Koseff- Ceo of Investec Group and Richard Gnodde- Co CEO of Goldman Sachs)
Tony Blair
(Former UK Prime minister)
Absence of Archbishop Emeritus Desmond Tutu.
I guess it's what makes The Arch Bishop world renowned, his unwavering belief in his values and sticking them out.
Venue
The venue is your standard high brow meeting hall. The facilities were of a high standard and it be joined to Sandton City via the Skywalk was a definite plus.
Food
What can I say? The quality was great and so was the variety. I still believe that I could have made better muffins.
Delegates
I saw a few of my idols in various areas of society from your Eusebius McKaiser(Intellectual and Debating Extraordinaire to Mondli Makhanya ( Editor of Sunday Times), Dr Precious Moloi Motsepe and many other wonderful people.
Many thanks to the following people I met at the Summit: Bharti, Lara, Phindie, Michael, Christopher, Lwazi and Sipho. I had a groupie moment which rendered me completely speechless when I saw Eusebius McKaiser and Mondli Makhanya arm's length away. I greeted Dr Precious Moloi-Motsepe and she greeted back (sheds tears of joy)
Thanks to The Discovery Invest Summit for the ticket and an experience of a life time.
Friday, 31 August 2012
New Beginnings
Happy Spring Day!!!
I went for a run this morning, I was greeted by the greenest fettle , the broadest smiles and the sweetest smells.
This brand new day and month brings plenty of candy for the eyes and the taste buds, as should be the case. We have more energy to do more things, more courage to bare skin and to adorn blindingly bright clothes. It is in the same spirit that we should do a bit of Spring Cleaning in our lives. We owe it to ourselves to live fuller, happier and less burdensome lives.
Ask yourself these questions in each of the areas
1. Why is it here?
2. What purpose is it serving?
3. Would my life be better or worse without it?
4. What should I introduce?
5. What needs to be kept?
10 Areas In Most of Our Lives that could do with a bit of sprucing up!
Relationships/Friendships
Career
Living Space
Money Matters
Spiritual Life
Academics
Business
Body and Health
Hobbies/Habits
Service to others
Have a blast *sprinkles all things colourful bright and right* Haha.
I went for a run this morning, I was greeted by the greenest fettle , the broadest smiles and the sweetest smells.
This brand new day and month brings plenty of candy for the eyes and the taste buds, as should be the case. We have more energy to do more things, more courage to bare skin and to adorn blindingly bright clothes. It is in the same spirit that we should do a bit of Spring Cleaning in our lives. We owe it to ourselves to live fuller, happier and less burdensome lives.
Ask yourself these questions in each of the areas
1. Why is it here?
2. What purpose is it serving?
3. Would my life be better or worse without it?
4. What should I introduce?
5. What needs to be kept?
10 Areas In Most of Our Lives that could do with a bit of sprucing up!
Relationships/Friendships
Career
Living Space
Money Matters
Spiritual Life
Academics
Business
Body and Health
Hobbies/Habits
Service to others
Have a blast *sprinkles all things colourful bright and right* Haha.
Monday, 20 August 2012
The Enclave Kingdom Summer Slimdown Challenge
If you are one of those lucky few that eat anything, drink anything without picking up weight, stop reading and go back to your life.
After the soups, stews, breads and hot drinks of winter some of us have packed on the winter kilos! Spring is virtually here and summer is the goal season.
If you are keen on going on this summer slimdown challenge let me know through one of the following ways
1. Comment
2. Facebook
3. Twitter
4. BBM
5. E-mail: gmekwa@gmail
It's a 13 Week Challenge.
Let's shed the winter kilos!
We'll share of highs and lows and tips. P.S It's a virtual group so you can be from anywhere!
#EnclaveKingdomSummerSlimdownChallenge
After the soups, stews, breads and hot drinks of winter some of us have packed on the winter kilos! Spring is virtually here and summer is the goal season.
If you are keen on going on this summer slimdown challenge let me know through one of the following ways
1. Comment
2. Facebook
3. Twitter
4. BBM
5. E-mail: gmekwa@gmail
It's a 13 Week Challenge.
Let's shed the winter kilos!
We'll share of highs and lows and tips. P.S It's a virtual group so you can be from anywhere!
#EnclaveKingdomSummerSlimdownChallenge
Saturday, 11 August 2012
Friend Types
The I use, bleed and Take advantage Friend
This friend will only contact you when they need something and until such a time they will not bother communicating with you. Months go without a care in the world but when favours season comes they are the first to call.
Resolve: Kick them to the curb
The I'm Embarrassed We are Friends Friend
I know only too well about this sort of friend, they are will never acknowledge you or your friendship in public because their so called friends don't approve of you. But as soon as they are away from prying eyes they are quick to be friends again. Spineless Cowards!
Resolve: Toss to the nearest rubbish heap
The We've been friends forever but no longer have anything in common Friend
No one is really to blame for the state of our friendship, it's a shadow of it's former self and unlike a job where long term service has rewards, this friendship offers nothing!
Resolve: Place in the 50/50 Box
The I used to date your friend Friend.
This is a tough situation because you have to balance your loyalty to your friend and their ex who happens to be a friend. If people are not going to be mature about things then I guess a what would a reasonable man do test would have to be applied.
Resolve: Place on Ice until further maturity
The Praise and Admire Me Friend
This is the friend that will never call or communicate with you unless they want to share some success with you. Their new this and that will be forced down your throat and Lord forbid things go wrong, they go silent until further success.
Resolve: Serve a large dose of their medicine and observe vital signs.
The Ride or Die Friend
You have ugly cried together, you have laughed and you have spoken about the time you lunged in the gym and farted. This friend will be yours still the end of time.
Resolve: Keep them in your heart.
The Friend with a PHD
This friend is critical of everything you do, you are not enough of this and you are too much of the other. Lord forbid you experience some sort of success this friend will quickly attribute it to luck.
Resolve: Suggest a good shrink
The I have more faces than a disco ball has pieces of Glass Friend.
This friend sways with the wind, a jelly fish on two legs. Wheat fields have greater back bone than this sort of friend. They are everything to everyone and sings a different tune to every audience.
Resolve: Let go unless you aspire to be a politician!
This friend will only contact you when they need something and until such a time they will not bother communicating with you. Months go without a care in the world but when favours season comes they are the first to call.
Resolve: Kick them to the curb
The I'm Embarrassed We are Friends Friend
I know only too well about this sort of friend, they are will never acknowledge you or your friendship in public because their so called friends don't approve of you. But as soon as they are away from prying eyes they are quick to be friends again. Spineless Cowards!
Resolve: Toss to the nearest rubbish heap
The We've been friends forever but no longer have anything in common Friend
No one is really to blame for the state of our friendship, it's a shadow of it's former self and unlike a job where long term service has rewards, this friendship offers nothing!
Resolve: Place in the 50/50 Box
The I used to date your friend Friend.
This is a tough situation because you have to balance your loyalty to your friend and their ex who happens to be a friend. If people are not going to be mature about things then I guess a what would a reasonable man do test would have to be applied.
Resolve: Place on Ice until further maturity
The Praise and Admire Me Friend
This is the friend that will never call or communicate with you unless they want to share some success with you. Their new this and that will be forced down your throat and Lord forbid things go wrong, they go silent until further success.
Resolve: Serve a large dose of their medicine and observe vital signs.
The Ride or Die Friend
You have ugly cried together, you have laughed and you have spoken about the time you lunged in the gym and farted. This friend will be yours still the end of time.
Resolve: Keep them in your heart.
The Friend with a PHD
This friend is critical of everything you do, you are not enough of this and you are too much of the other. Lord forbid you experience some sort of success this friend will quickly attribute it to luck.
Resolve: Suggest a good shrink
The I have more faces than a disco ball has pieces of Glass Friend.
This friend sways with the wind, a jelly fish on two legs. Wheat fields have greater back bone than this sort of friend. They are everything to everyone and sings a different tune to every audience.
Resolve: Let go unless you aspire to be a politician!
Thursday, 9 August 2012
Dj Kaznova The Interview.
I have been wanting to do this interview for quite a bit and I'm glad I finally got the chance to pick his brain, as well as shed a bit of light in the club lighting lit life of a dj.
I have to hand it to Kazi for doing what many town of Welkom didn't think was a possibility. He's a big dreamer with this head in the clouds and feet firmly placed on the ground. He's Level headed and grounded, not your everyday dj and I hope he remains so( Please stay away from open or closed gates)!
Where does Kaznova come from?
Born and raised in Welkom, Free State
where does this interest in DJ’ing and music come from? Be honest!!! Did you do it to get girls? LOL
LOL at 1st yeah the whole idea of getting groupies was the aim but that quickly changed I feel in love with music and wanted to share my skills with the world.
When you realised you had an interest and skill where did you go from there?
I decided to go study Music Production and Sound engineering at the Soul Candi Institute of Music in 2010
you did attend the Soul Candi Dj/Music academy right? How is the environment there? We all assume that you are in this carefree environment with parties and celebrities and all things fun.
Yes, the environment there was great, got to meet a lot of people mainly up and coming artists and celebs.
What are your thoughts on the stereotype that dj’s are promiscuous casanovas? (Not reference to your Dj name, hehe).
LOL, well we all are humans at the end of the day, the problem comes with the whole idea that EVERY DJ is promiscuous when it comes to girls which isn’t the case for some, like me.
Is it true that groupies throw their unmentionables (undies) at DJs? We need to know.
LOL, that hasn’t happened to me yet, but ask me in a few years and I will tell you.
Can people make a living out being a Dj? Have you bought your first bottle of Aces Champagne yet? Do share.
LOL, well I’m not into expensive bottles but Yes you can make a living but only if you make it your career and not just a hobby, if you have a good album out and singed to a good record company you are pretty much doing well (you won’t starve).
How are you dealing with the piracy situation?
It’s there and one thing I can say that I learnt at SCIM (Soul Candi Institute of Music) is that any publicity is good publicity in a way, it’s sad that its happening but it won’t just end anytime soon.
Who are your musical role models and why?
Dj Kent, Dada Life, Dirty South, DJ Black Coffee but to name a few – Their skills amaze me and at times they are my inspiration to do better.
I saw the StrongBow interview. What was that about?
I entered into the YFM/StrongBow South Africa Mega Star Competition and I made it into the finals were I came 2nd place.
What are your family sentiments towards your career path?
They support me in everything I do, I also study so I plan to have a backup plan IF I ever need it.
Aspirations? Where do you see yourself in the future?
The 1st South African producer/Dj on the Dj Mag top 100 dj’s of the world, Highest Paid Dj in the World and a successful Business Man
What are you going to do with your first R1 Million cheque?
Buy my mom a house and the rest I invest.
We all have the moments when we just reach a point where nothing is going right and we want to throw in the towel. Have you had such? What kept you motivated?
Yes a lot actually, it’s about remembering why you started at the 1st place and what you want out of it, we all have down days but my pick me up is listening to my favourite artists and picturing myself there because I have achieved certain things I never thought I would which means that there is hope if focus and faith are in place.
Let's get a bit more personal! A friend of mine once said that everyone knows not to date a Dj. Does being a Dj making it easier or more difficult for you to date?
LOL, it depends but honestly dating aint the problem that’s kinda easy finding the right girl with the right mentality who supports you and truly wants to be with you regardless of your career is hard.
Do you find that girls want to date because you are a Dj? How do you differentiate a groupie from a potential?
LOL, good question. Uhmm in my experience there’s a certain way a groupie would act towards you than a potential, for instance if a girl is forever talking about you in regards to the people you meet and the places you go to all the time to me she’s a suspect.
What's a day like in your life?
Pretty normal, I study/produce/watch series/ watch movies/ meet with friends on a weekday schedule on weekends that’s where I find myself doing the total opposite if I am booked for a event that’s outside of JHB I travel there and go BUCK, I’m a very quiet guy but when out I go crazy.
10 Parting Shots. Just one word answers
1. Favourite Drink: Southern Comfort and Lime + Lemonade
2. Pet Hate: I hate all pets, I don’t see myself owning one anytime soon.
3. Brains or Beauty: Brains of course
4. Dogs or Cats: none but since I have to choose id say a cat.
5. Yellow Bones or Dark Chocolate: Yellow Bone
6. Merc or Beemer: Merc
7. Books or DVDs: DVDs
8. Miami or Ibiza: Ibiza!!
9. Soccer or Cricket: Soccer
10. Welkom or JHB: JHB
Thanks for giving us a glimpse into the life of an up and coming dj! Invite & Follow:
BBM Pin: 29FD5FC8
Follow me on Twitter: @KaznovaMusic
I have to hand it to Kazi for doing what many town of Welkom didn't think was a possibility. He's a big dreamer with this head in the clouds and feet firmly placed on the ground. He's Level headed and grounded, not your everyday dj and I hope he remains so( Please stay away from open or closed gates)!
Where does Kaznova come from?
Born and raised in Welkom, Free State
where does this interest in DJ’ing and music come from? Be honest!!! Did you do it to get girls? LOL
LOL at 1st yeah the whole idea of getting groupies was the aim but that quickly changed I feel in love with music and wanted to share my skills with the world.
When you realised you had an interest and skill where did you go from there?
I decided to go study Music Production and Sound engineering at the Soul Candi Institute of Music in 2010
you did attend the Soul Candi Dj/Music academy right? How is the environment there? We all assume that you are in this carefree environment with parties and celebrities and all things fun.
Yes, the environment there was great, got to meet a lot of people mainly up and coming artists and celebs.
What are your thoughts on the stereotype that dj’s are promiscuous casanovas? (Not reference to your Dj name, hehe).
LOL, well we all are humans at the end of the day, the problem comes with the whole idea that EVERY DJ is promiscuous when it comes to girls which isn’t the case for some, like me.
Is it true that groupies throw their unmentionables (undies) at DJs? We need to know.
LOL, that hasn’t happened to me yet, but ask me in a few years and I will tell you.
Can people make a living out being a Dj? Have you bought your first bottle of Aces Champagne yet? Do share.
LOL, well I’m not into expensive bottles but Yes you can make a living but only if you make it your career and not just a hobby, if you have a good album out and singed to a good record company you are pretty much doing well (you won’t starve).
How are you dealing with the piracy situation?
It’s there and one thing I can say that I learnt at SCIM (Soul Candi Institute of Music) is that any publicity is good publicity in a way, it’s sad that its happening but it won’t just end anytime soon.
Who are your musical role models and why?
Dj Kent, Dada Life, Dirty South, DJ Black Coffee but to name a few – Their skills amaze me and at times they are my inspiration to do better.
I saw the StrongBow interview. What was that about?
I entered into the YFM/StrongBow South Africa Mega Star Competition and I made it into the finals were I came 2nd place.
What are your family sentiments towards your career path?
They support me in everything I do, I also study so I plan to have a backup plan IF I ever need it.
Aspirations? Where do you see yourself in the future?
The 1st South African producer/Dj on the Dj Mag top 100 dj’s of the world, Highest Paid Dj in the World and a successful Business Man
What are you going to do with your first R1 Million cheque?
Buy my mom a house and the rest I invest.
We all have the moments when we just reach a point where nothing is going right and we want to throw in the towel. Have you had such? What kept you motivated?
Yes a lot actually, it’s about remembering why you started at the 1st place and what you want out of it, we all have down days but my pick me up is listening to my favourite artists and picturing myself there because I have achieved certain things I never thought I would which means that there is hope if focus and faith are in place.
Let's get a bit more personal! A friend of mine once said that everyone knows not to date a Dj. Does being a Dj making it easier or more difficult for you to date?
LOL, it depends but honestly dating aint the problem that’s kinda easy finding the right girl with the right mentality who supports you and truly wants to be with you regardless of your career is hard.
Do you find that girls want to date because you are a Dj? How do you differentiate a groupie from a potential?
LOL, good question. Uhmm in my experience there’s a certain way a groupie would act towards you than a potential, for instance if a girl is forever talking about you in regards to the people you meet and the places you go to all the time to me she’s a suspect.
What's a day like in your life?
Pretty normal, I study/produce/watch series/ watch movies/ meet with friends on a weekday schedule on weekends that’s where I find myself doing the total opposite if I am booked for a event that’s outside of JHB I travel there and go BUCK, I’m a very quiet guy but when out I go crazy.
10 Parting Shots. Just one word answers
1. Favourite Drink: Southern Comfort and Lime + Lemonade
2. Pet Hate: I hate all pets, I don’t see myself owning one anytime soon.
3. Brains or Beauty: Brains of course
4. Dogs or Cats: none but since I have to choose id say a cat.
5. Yellow Bones or Dark Chocolate: Yellow Bone
6. Merc or Beemer: Merc
7. Books or DVDs: DVDs
8. Miami or Ibiza: Ibiza!!
9. Soccer or Cricket: Soccer
10. Welkom or JHB: JHB
Thanks for giving us a glimpse into the life of an up and coming dj! Invite & Follow:
BBM Pin: 29FD5FC8
Follow me on Twitter: @KaznovaMusic
Wednesday, 8 August 2012
Always and Forever Part 3
Dear
“When you have seen as much of life as I have, you will not underestimate the power of obsessive love.”
― J.K. Rowling, Harry Potter and the Half-Blood Prince
I have come to realise that our communications have become fodder for your blog and you know what: it's okay, I want them to know how I feel. I want them to know that when you end up alone in your palatial home it's not because you didn't find love. I want them to know you turned down a heart that loved you because of your rules.
I know might have not won this war yet but I have won this battle. The mere fact that you are engaging me and expanding effort means I got a response out of you. If you weren't open to the idea you wouldn't have spent so much time on this quest of mine. Your razor sharp words are wounds right now but in time they will be scars of a war I won.
Cold shower? I have taken so many that I am immune to the cold of the water and the cold of your heart. Because I am your friend I know what you want and that's why I would be perfect for you.
I want to say Fotsek and go to hell but that would only kill me. I would be ripping my heart out to spite my body. I'm so frustrated by you and you little rules!!! Fuck rules because they'll fuck you over one day! What do you want me to do?
I can't love someone else but you. If that makes me an idiot, this idiot loves you with all of it's heart
“It’s always funny watching something so beautiful not know how beautiful it really is. It’s sad even.”
― Holly Hood, Ink: Twisted Magic
P.S I've taken indefinite leave I'm coming up to Bloem and I'll be there until you love me back.
“When you have seen as much of life as I have, you will not underestimate the power of obsessive love.”
― J.K. Rowling, Harry Potter and the Half-Blood Prince
I have come to realise that our communications have become fodder for your blog and you know what: it's okay, I want them to know how I feel. I want them to know that when you end up alone in your palatial home it's not because you didn't find love. I want them to know you turned down a heart that loved you because of your rules.
I know might have not won this war yet but I have won this battle. The mere fact that you are engaging me and expanding effort means I got a response out of you. If you weren't open to the idea you wouldn't have spent so much time on this quest of mine. Your razor sharp words are wounds right now but in time they will be scars of a war I won.
Cold shower? I have taken so many that I am immune to the cold of the water and the cold of your heart. Because I am your friend I know what you want and that's why I would be perfect for you.
I want to say Fotsek and go to hell but that would only kill me. I would be ripping my heart out to spite my body. I'm so frustrated by you and you little rules!!! Fuck rules because they'll fuck you over one day! What do you want me to do?
I can't love someone else but you. If that makes me an idiot, this idiot loves you with all of it's heart
“It’s always funny watching something so beautiful not know how beautiful it really is. It’s sad even.”
― Holly Hood, Ink: Twisted Magic
P.S I've taken indefinite leave I'm coming up to Bloem and I'll be there until you love me back.
Tuesday, 7 August 2012
Always and Forever Part 2
After a bit of deliberating and discussing the matter with my friends, my pot plant and my teddy bear I got the courage to respond
Dear
I'm a bit surprised to say the least. I'm sorry I have been ignoring your many attempts to contact me with the various instant messaging applications and countless calls.
You are right! You know my terms and conditions of being my friend. 1. You better not have feelings for me 2. You are not to develop feelings for me. Breaking these results in the immediate termination of our friendship
The love we have for our friends is sometimes deeper than that of lovers. We have no secrets between us, I have shared every detail of my life with you. You have been privy to my deep feelings. I have said things to you that I couldn't say to my own family members.
I can't stomach the fact that you knew all along you had feelings for me but you chose to keep quiet.
Of course I love you! You are my friend. I love all my friends.
You are so selfish and self centred! It's all about you and your feelings! Did you ever for one minute think of what this hormonal flair up will do to me? How would I survive having a close and dear friend have erotic intentions towards me? So much for loving me! If you really loved me as you proclaim to, you should have just taken a cold shower, got over yourself and keep it to yourself!!!
I want to call you and ask you about how your day was. I want to send you a birthday present. I want to BBM you. I can't do any of those things anymore because of these feelings of yours.
Can't you love someone else?
Heavy Heart
Dear
I'm a bit surprised to say the least. I'm sorry I have been ignoring your many attempts to contact me with the various instant messaging applications and countless calls.
You are right! You know my terms and conditions of being my friend. 1. You better not have feelings for me 2. You are not to develop feelings for me. Breaking these results in the immediate termination of our friendship
The love we have for our friends is sometimes deeper than that of lovers. We have no secrets between us, I have shared every detail of my life with you. You have been privy to my deep feelings. I have said things to you that I couldn't say to my own family members.
I can't stomach the fact that you knew all along you had feelings for me but you chose to keep quiet.
Of course I love you! You are my friend. I love all my friends.
You are so selfish and self centred! It's all about you and your feelings! Did you ever for one minute think of what this hormonal flair up will do to me? How would I survive having a close and dear friend have erotic intentions towards me? So much for loving me! If you really loved me as you proclaim to, you should have just taken a cold shower, got over yourself and keep it to yourself!!!
I want to call you and ask you about how your day was. I want to send you a birthday present. I want to BBM you. I can't do any of those things anymore because of these feelings of yours.
Can't you love someone else?
Heavy Heart
Saturday, 4 August 2012
Always and Forever Part 1
It all started with a sms: "It's important that we talk" What was to follow was an e-mail that left me floored.
Dear
“To burn with desire and keep quiet about it is the greatest punishment we can bring on ourselves.”- Federico GarcÃa Lorca
You are probably wondering why you haven't heard from me in a while and I am sorry to have not lavished you with the attention you deserve. Distance and space often gives one clarity and most importantly in my case courage to gird my loins for what I know will be a battle of the heart.
I have known that this day would come for years now and I am somewhat glad it has come.
Being friends with you, has been a bitter sweet experience that has left my heart pacing and beating so slowly it could stop. Having to watch as your yearn for a love that makes each day worth living, each fight worth getting bruised for; I want to be that love for you! Why don't you love me? I am not of the opinion that you are oblivious of my current disposition! It's you that will complete my life.
You might wonder why I have kept these feelings to myself and why I never made my intentions clear. Well, you are the reason: you have made it clear that you will never date a friend and that if I ever developed feeling for you the friendship will be over. You are still single! What are you waiting for?
You have no reason but the fact that we friends not to give me a chance.
Does seeing me jump through hoops to get your attention stroke your ego? You must get some sordid pleasure out of seeing me beg for your affection. I don't want to be your friend, keep your friendship, keep it. I don't want it. I want us to be more than that.
Despite any frustration I might feel, the anger directed at you I still have hope that one day you will love me back. That one day I'll look at this e-mail as reminder of the day my life changed.
Sthandwa sami.
Always and Forever Yours
P.S I'll drop everything for you
Dear
“To burn with desire and keep quiet about it is the greatest punishment we can bring on ourselves.”- Federico GarcÃa Lorca
You are probably wondering why you haven't heard from me in a while and I am sorry to have not lavished you with the attention you deserve. Distance and space often gives one clarity and most importantly in my case courage to gird my loins for what I know will be a battle of the heart.
I have known that this day would come for years now and I am somewhat glad it has come.
Being friends with you, has been a bitter sweet experience that has left my heart pacing and beating so slowly it could stop. Having to watch as your yearn for a love that makes each day worth living, each fight worth getting bruised for; I want to be that love for you! Why don't you love me? I am not of the opinion that you are oblivious of my current disposition! It's you that will complete my life.
You might wonder why I have kept these feelings to myself and why I never made my intentions clear. Well, you are the reason: you have made it clear that you will never date a friend and that if I ever developed feeling for you the friendship will be over. You are still single! What are you waiting for?
You have no reason but the fact that we friends not to give me a chance.
Does seeing me jump through hoops to get your attention stroke your ego? You must get some sordid pleasure out of seeing me beg for your affection. I don't want to be your friend, keep your friendship, keep it. I don't want it. I want us to be more than that.
Despite any frustration I might feel, the anger directed at you I still have hope that one day you will love me back. That one day I'll look at this e-mail as reminder of the day my life changed.
Sthandwa sami.
Always and Forever Yours
P.S I'll drop everything for you
Monday, 30 July 2012
Cooking101
Sharing is caring and the following are 5 pointers guaranteed to improve one's skills. P.S My friend I know you won't use a single one *hides*
1. Spaghetti Bolognese is not Italian. It's a concoction popular outside of Italy. Mince meat on top of spaghetti is not Spaghetti Bolognese: that's mince meat and spaghetti .P.S It's not Bolognese until you added some cream or Milk. Inbox/e-mail me if you want the actual Bolognese sauce recipe.
2. Spices and pre packaged sauces are not what makes food taste great but the skill of the cook.
3. Using Custard Powder is not making custard from scratch. You need to actually use eggs, cream and sugar, give or take flour depending on whether you are making the custard to be serves as a dessert or for a quiche. My mother deliver this blow to me.
4. 7 Colours. This is a contentious one especially to those of a darker hue who grew up on this one. Yes it's a home cooked meal that takes most of us back to our childhoods. I don't agree with the messy beetroot that seeps beneath the rest of the plate. 7 Colours when well presented can be great.
5. When making a stew don't set the stove on the highest temperature that would be great for boiling sheep's head or "african herbs" but not for a tender succulent stew that won't ruin your dentist/orthodontist's hard work.
Let's make our meals amazing. Questions and Comments: e-mail them to gmekwa@gmail.com
1. Spaghetti Bolognese is not Italian. It's a concoction popular outside of Italy. Mince meat on top of spaghetti is not Spaghetti Bolognese: that's mince meat and spaghetti .P.S It's not Bolognese until you added some cream or Milk. Inbox/e-mail me if you want the actual Bolognese sauce recipe.
2. Spices and pre packaged sauces are not what makes food taste great but the skill of the cook.
3. Using Custard Powder is not making custard from scratch. You need to actually use eggs, cream and sugar, give or take flour depending on whether you are making the custard to be serves as a dessert or for a quiche. My mother deliver this blow to me.
4. 7 Colours. This is a contentious one especially to those of a darker hue who grew up on this one. Yes it's a home cooked meal that takes most of us back to our childhoods. I don't agree with the messy beetroot that seeps beneath the rest of the plate. 7 Colours when well presented can be great.
5. When making a stew don't set the stove on the highest temperature that would be great for boiling sheep's head or "african herbs" but not for a tender succulent stew that won't ruin your dentist/orthodontist's hard work.
Let's make our meals amazing. Questions and Comments: e-mail them to gmekwa@gmail.com
Sunday, 29 July 2012
JSE National Youth Financial Literacy Day
I decided to make a plan and go to the JSE National Financial Literacy Day at the JSE in Sandowns Sandton held on Friday the 27th of July 2012. I took the brave and practical decision to make it a day trip by bus. Left Bloemfontein at 01:00 Friday Morning and I arrived in Johannesburg at 06:30. The workshop started at 09:00 and ended at 15:00. My bus left later that evening.
I arrived in Johannesburg a Gautrain Virgin smelling of Hermes's wonderful scent and left with a hope for our country, it symbolises our country's aspirations.
Entertainment: I have to be honest I was sceptical about the idea of having the edu-tainment piece but I was quickly converted to its biggest fan. The Tempo of the piece sent jolts of energy and excitement throughout the audience. Pure genius. I loved the Mam' Fikile Character.
Speakers and Topics:
I thoroughly enjoyed all the speakers and what they had to say. From the humorous Advocate Sankie Morata to wonderfully realistic Lady from the National Creditor regulator( Manala Botolo). However I had my favourites, Mr Mauwane Kotane from Mamepe Capital is the face of many of our country's aspirant youth and Mrs Leigh Bevis of Strate gave us an insight into seeking employment was has left me truly changed! I have to say that even for those who are well versed in investment learnt something. The Mandate has been met and exceeded.
Food: Being a student at heart I was pleased with the large selection of finger foods provided to the delegates. The food impressed even those like myself with an experienced and critical palette.
Venue: It was only fitting that the event be held at the JSE giving delegates a chance to see where the wheels of our country's economy turn. To the bemusement and slight disappointment of some, there was no trading floor! The ablution facilities were clean and hygienic which scored the JSE brownie points(**,).
I arrived in Johannesburg a Gautrain Virgin smelling of Hermes's wonderful scent and left with a hope for our country, it symbolises our country's aspirations.
Entertainment: I have to be honest I was sceptical about the idea of having the edu-tainment piece but I was quickly converted to its biggest fan. The Tempo of the piece sent jolts of energy and excitement throughout the audience. Pure genius. I loved the Mam' Fikile Character.
Speakers and Topics:
I thoroughly enjoyed all the speakers and what they had to say. From the humorous Advocate Sankie Morata to wonderfully realistic Lady from the National Creditor regulator( Manala Botolo). However I had my favourites, Mr Mauwane Kotane from Mamepe Capital is the face of many of our country's aspirant youth and Mrs Leigh Bevis of Strate gave us an insight into seeking employment was has left me truly changed! I have to say that even for those who are well versed in investment learnt something. The Mandate has been met and exceeded.
Food: Being a student at heart I was pleased with the large selection of finger foods provided to the delegates. The food impressed even those like myself with an experienced and critical palette.
Venue: It was only fitting that the event be held at the JSE giving delegates a chance to see where the wheels of our country's economy turn. To the bemusement and slight disappointment of some, there was no trading floor! The ablution facilities were clean and hygienic which scored the JSE brownie points(**,).
Wednesday, 25 July 2012
Base Training For the Soweto Marathon
I am on my 3rd week of a 8 week base training. My shins are raw but I am high in spirits. Running is one of the most brutal sports especially for amateurs like myself, I don't run for a living but as a way to clear my head and shed a few kilos. I'll be doing the 10km possibly the 21km run with the Team Noeleen 3 Talk!!! I am looking forward to it but a bit worried about the outcome. Reconditioning my body is proving to be a painful but fulfilling process. The message I got from a dear friend of mine was never give up and keeping!
Things you'll need to start running
1. A Good Pair of Running trainers
2. Warm winter gear
3. A towel
4. Grit
Things you'll need to start running
1. A Good Pair of Running trainers
2. Warm winter gear
3. A towel
4. Grit
Tuesday, 24 July 2012
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My Kind of Girl
I have seen many a person pleased with themselves and their abilities in attracting a lady friend. Before you jump on a roof top beating your chest like King Kong with false pride: you could have been the conquest, the prey not the hunter. Consider the following ways which your woman might have wrapped you around her finger.
Mama Way
The Mama Way kind of girl is one that will mother her conquest, no laundry basket is too big for this girl, she will do it all!! She plays the surrogate mother and this tactic usually works well, because after all there is love in Labour. Her commune room or flat is a home away from home for her targets in between the fried chicken and his freshly ironed pants he falls in love.
Ho Way
The Ho Way Girl appeals to a man's most basic need and urge. No amount of denial and beating around the bush will take away from the fact that the promise of cardinal pleasures and the chance of knowing a woman in a biblical sense is too hard to resist for many. She wields whips, chains and all things sensual. This tactic requires a bit of elbow grease, getting down and dirty! LOL.
Church Way
The Church Way girl is a lady who believes in the benefits of home ground advantage, in her quest for love she takes the battle to your pew and armed with her bible she will get what she's after. This lady will play sunday school teacher, run the cake sale stall and she is always willing to help her fellow church members while she doesn't lose focus of the prize. She is the paragon of virtue and that "brother" will be hers come hell or high water!
Khetiwe Two H Theory
Practitioners of this theory are inspired by Khetiwe Ngcobo(Yes the Generations character) and should really sign Mfundi Vundla a cheque for this gem. This lady will either be completely helpless, the damsel in distress waiting for prince charming to come and save her. She has the option of being very helpful to the target of her affections and she will work to be seen as reliable and dependant: wife material.
All of the Above
This girl is no one trick pony, she is well versed in the above mentioned tactics and she will customise she approach to her target market. This lady's charm works on one and all and has the highest success rate. She is probably familiar with the Southern saying: "My mama said it's easy to keep a man. Be a cook in the Kitchen, a maid in the lounge and a whore in the bedroom". *hides*
Mama Way
The Mama Way kind of girl is one that will mother her conquest, no laundry basket is too big for this girl, she will do it all!! She plays the surrogate mother and this tactic usually works well, because after all there is love in Labour. Her commune room or flat is a home away from home for her targets in between the fried chicken and his freshly ironed pants he falls in love.
Ho Way
The Ho Way Girl appeals to a man's most basic need and urge. No amount of denial and beating around the bush will take away from the fact that the promise of cardinal pleasures and the chance of knowing a woman in a biblical sense is too hard to resist for many. She wields whips, chains and all things sensual. This tactic requires a bit of elbow grease, getting down and dirty! LOL.
Church Way
The Church Way girl is a lady who believes in the benefits of home ground advantage, in her quest for love she takes the battle to your pew and armed with her bible she will get what she's after. This lady will play sunday school teacher, run the cake sale stall and she is always willing to help her fellow church members while she doesn't lose focus of the prize. She is the paragon of virtue and that "brother" will be hers come hell or high water!
Khetiwe Two H Theory
Practitioners of this theory are inspired by Khetiwe Ngcobo(Yes the Generations character) and should really sign Mfundi Vundla a cheque for this gem. This lady will either be completely helpless, the damsel in distress waiting for prince charming to come and save her. She has the option of being very helpful to the target of her affections and she will work to be seen as reliable and dependant: wife material.
All of the Above
This girl is no one trick pony, she is well versed in the above mentioned tactics and she will customise she approach to her target market. This lady's charm works on one and all and has the highest success rate. She is probably familiar with the Southern saying: "My mama said it's easy to keep a man. Be a cook in the Kitchen, a maid in the lounge and a whore in the bedroom". *hides*
Tuesday, 10 July 2012
Baby I'm scared
Years gone past and you realised that in many respects you have progressed in your life, you are more independent than ever and you are building the foundation of your career.
For the most part this is a healthy situation and a positive one. We would all want to be on this path and progressing every year. A time will come when more and more people start asking about your relationship status and a form here and there will start questioning you. That menacing season will start and hopeful souls will start taking interest in you.
All of a sudden you realise that you are you as innocent and naïve as the day you were born. You are still single! Never Dated! Never had a fling! Never done nothing! Niks! Not everyone you meet wants to be your friend, some want to be more! In a moment of panic you start telling yourself that story you have been telling yourself all these years and as time goes on that story is losing its efficacy.
It's not about dropping one's unmentionables at the mere mention of "I love you" but developing a maturity that speaks to your basic need for companionship and developing a bond that's more erotic than platonic. You quickly realise that you didn't come about as a result of divine conception but a more emotional and physical one.
You concede that departing and arriving at airports with no one waving you goodbye and welcoming you back is not the most pleasant and practical of situations. Your skills were emotional maturity and agility are concerned are about as sharp as a balloon! Virtually nonexistent!!! You are not a nun nor are you a friar! Life long chastity and innocence does not mean life will do you any favours nor does it mean you are in any way better than anyone else.
Dating is not a bed of roses! You have to deal with Bubu's snoring and Shanaynay's monthly hormone induced tantrums. While all of this is happening, you have to change yourself to a more palatable partner, as well as honing your skills naughty or otherwise and you hope, pray that yours is not the straying type. It's a battlefield that needs constant fighting and work.
However, surely as the sun sets, dating will have its many rewards; for arming yourself, rolling up your sleeves and grabbing the shovel. Those who have braved the conquest of love will have earned the right to love and toe curling goodness. It's can't be all bad if so many people continue to give it a try after each failure.
I guess we all have to wear our big boy and big girl pants and face the reality of dating not because all your friends are dating, not because you feel uncomfortable with your own company: Because It's about Damn time!
For the most part this is a healthy situation and a positive one. We would all want to be on this path and progressing every year. A time will come when more and more people start asking about your relationship status and a form here and there will start questioning you. That menacing season will start and hopeful souls will start taking interest in you.
All of a sudden you realise that you are you as innocent and naïve as the day you were born. You are still single! Never Dated! Never had a fling! Never done nothing! Niks! Not everyone you meet wants to be your friend, some want to be more! In a moment of panic you start telling yourself that story you have been telling yourself all these years and as time goes on that story is losing its efficacy.
It's not about dropping one's unmentionables at the mere mention of "I love you" but developing a maturity that speaks to your basic need for companionship and developing a bond that's more erotic than platonic. You quickly realise that you didn't come about as a result of divine conception but a more emotional and physical one.
You concede that departing and arriving at airports with no one waving you goodbye and welcoming you back is not the most pleasant and practical of situations. Your skills were emotional maturity and agility are concerned are about as sharp as a balloon! Virtually nonexistent!!! You are not a nun nor are you a friar! Life long chastity and innocence does not mean life will do you any favours nor does it mean you are in any way better than anyone else.
Dating is not a bed of roses! You have to deal with Bubu's snoring and Shanaynay's monthly hormone induced tantrums. While all of this is happening, you have to change yourself to a more palatable partner, as well as honing your skills naughty or otherwise and you hope, pray that yours is not the straying type. It's a battlefield that needs constant fighting and work.
However, surely as the sun sets, dating will have its many rewards; for arming yourself, rolling up your sleeves and grabbing the shovel. Those who have braved the conquest of love will have earned the right to love and toe curling goodness. It's can't be all bad if so many people continue to give it a try after each failure.
I guess we all have to wear our big boy and big girl pants and face the reality of dating not because all your friends are dating, not because you feel uncomfortable with your own company: Because It's about Damn time!
Wednesday, 4 July 2012
They never told you
They never told you that loving someone meant that you'd be crying yourself to sleep and being in pain every night.
They never told you that making someone one the centre of your world meant that person had the power to send it tumbling down on you.
They never told you spending your days and nights with snuggly bear meant when snuggly bear decides to spend time away from you your own company would be unbearable.
They never told you making him or her your one and only meant that you could be left alone in the world when another has come into your relationship.
They never told you that the horizontal mambo was not a chain you'd tie your significant other in the relationship but it was sadly, fun while it lasted.
They never told you offering pure love and affection to someone meant that you would be in the purest pain when that love is thrown in your face.
They never told you that til death due was part could actual happen to you when you are your happiest and that time does not heal all wounds.
They never told you that sweet nothings could easily turn in words as sharp as daggers faster than you can say: Tell me more baby!
They never told you that the one who pulls at your heartstrings would be taken by distance and the warm arms of another.
They never told you that Jerry Maguire was just a movie and that chances are you would end up with a bee-ssh or a bass-Ted
Next time read the fine print but had they told you chances are you wouldn't have had the time of your life.
They never told you that making someone one the centre of your world meant that person had the power to send it tumbling down on you.
They never told you spending your days and nights with snuggly bear meant when snuggly bear decides to spend time away from you your own company would be unbearable.
They never told you making him or her your one and only meant that you could be left alone in the world when another has come into your relationship.
They never told you that the horizontal mambo was not a chain you'd tie your significant other in the relationship but it was sadly, fun while it lasted.
They never told you offering pure love and affection to someone meant that you would be in the purest pain when that love is thrown in your face.
They never told you that til death due was part could actual happen to you when you are your happiest and that time does not heal all wounds.
They never told you that sweet nothings could easily turn in words as sharp as daggers faster than you can say: Tell me more baby!
They never told you that the one who pulls at your heartstrings would be taken by distance and the warm arms of another.
They never told you that Jerry Maguire was just a movie and that chances are you would end up with a bee-ssh or a bass-Ted
Next time read the fine print but had they told you chances are you wouldn't have had the time of your life.
Sunday, 1 July 2012
Rejected
It's no easy mastering up some courage and chutzpah to take the first step. We get our hands dirty and make ourselves vulnerable all in the hope of getting lucky in the matters of the heart.
It's pretty scary trying to finally throw caution to the wind and approaching the one who tugs at our heartstrings or finally filling that application whose positive result will change your life for the better.
More times than not we are faced with the reality that not everyone will like us and not everyone will warm up to our advances. Not every application or endeavour will be met with success .In the moments when we are down in the dumps we need to remember that rejection is not always a bad thing in the long run.
I totally agree no one likes feeling rejecting and the thought that someone does not find us appealing does leave one a little deflated.
We could mope and accept defeat or be motivated to get our horses, giddy up and get to work. A part of us wants to show that person that rejected us that we are a prize worth having and they erred in rejecting us. In that lies the greatness of rejection.
Some of those polished diamonds are so result of someone throwing those "rocks" to the curb and being exposed to some brutal cutting. That shinning piece of gold has been through temperatures that mimic the fiery pit which is home to the horned one!
Before you cry foul, thank that rejection because it can be a tool used to shape you!
"That rejection did you a favour. Had I not rejected you wouldn't have built yourself into the success I see before my eyes"
It's pretty scary trying to finally throw caution to the wind and approaching the one who tugs at our heartstrings or finally filling that application whose positive result will change your life for the better.
More times than not we are faced with the reality that not everyone will like us and not everyone will warm up to our advances. Not every application or endeavour will be met with success .In the moments when we are down in the dumps we need to remember that rejection is not always a bad thing in the long run.
I totally agree no one likes feeling rejecting and the thought that someone does not find us appealing does leave one a little deflated.
We could mope and accept defeat or be motivated to get our horses, giddy up and get to work. A part of us wants to show that person that rejected us that we are a prize worth having and they erred in rejecting us. In that lies the greatness of rejection.
Some of those polished diamonds are so result of someone throwing those "rocks" to the curb and being exposed to some brutal cutting. That shinning piece of gold has been through temperatures that mimic the fiery pit which is home to the horned one!
Before you cry foul, thank that rejection because it can be a tool used to shape you!
"That rejection did you a favour. Had I not rejected you wouldn't have built yourself into the success I see before my eyes"
Tuesday, 26 June 2012
Back on The Wagon
After two separate hospital visits each over a week long and several weeks of inactivity I have been given the go ahead to start exercising.
I missed the pleasure of my hour long runs and more times than not I had to dig deep to push through raw shins and stiff legs. Running brings me such great pleasure not to mention the weight loss it brings.
I am excited and nervous at the same time, I can't wait to get out there but I am worried about my weeks of inactivity and having to go back to a slower pace. 8 Weeks of base training I have been told! That's how long it will take me to go back to my old fitness level.
Hopefully come Spring I'll be in a better off position and I'll be able to experience the first blooms while hitting the concrete! P.S I am starting a running club for beginners and anyone who likes running. Jabu do the right thing!!!
I missed the pleasure of my hour long runs and more times than not I had to dig deep to push through raw shins and stiff legs. Running brings me such great pleasure not to mention the weight loss it brings.
I am excited and nervous at the same time, I can't wait to get out there but I am worried about my weeks of inactivity and having to go back to a slower pace. 8 Weeks of base training I have been told! That's how long it will take me to go back to my old fitness level.
Hopefully come Spring I'll be in a better off position and I'll be able to experience the first blooms while hitting the concrete! P.S I am starting a running club for beginners and anyone who likes running. Jabu do the right thing!!!
Friday, 8 June 2012
Friendly or Flirtatious
You walk across to my table or I walk past you our eyes lock and I give a gentle smile that says hello and the next thing I get is a smile that comes come over. Being my usual amiable self, I giggle and move along. That was a complete stranger and I exchanged the facial gestures and body language appropriate for strangers.
Most of the time the encounter ends on good terms, the next time we see each other, be it in a bank queue or in an isle at our favourite grocery store, we greet and possibly exchange a few laughs and a hug. It ends there; no award conversations which mask a desire to move into the not so platonic space.
However, there are those moments that random brief encounters are used as reference and supporting points as to the supposed flirtation the other person thinks is happening between the two of us. The encounter in the parking lots in the mall is now seen as a perfect place to exchange digits. That's when "I'd like to know you better" and " You can't deny the chemistry between us" come in. You are left dazed and amazed by these worlds. I smile and hug most if not all my friends but why is this soul thinking that it's me being flirtatious.
Blushing and shocked, I walk away back to my existence where there is nothing wrong with being courteous and warm towards people and they don't think it's an invitation to starting something.
A few weeks later you meet again but this time things aren't so rosey. You are met with hostile look or even worse you are accused of playing hard to get and of being a shameless flirt or more intense a tease. Before you attached such a label on me did you ever stop to think that I'm just being friendly and if I were to be flirtatious you would know.
The world is a strange place where being a genuinely nice person is seen as others as a socially accepted cover for lack of a better word being: down right nasty. I guess some people aren't used to being showered with warm and friendly attention. Flirting is great and so being friendly.
Like all signals and messages some a clearer than others. Forgive me in advance if my friendly gestures are understood as flirting but if I am however flirting, let the games begin.
Most of the time the encounter ends on good terms, the next time we see each other, be it in a bank queue or in an isle at our favourite grocery store, we greet and possibly exchange a few laughs and a hug. It ends there; no award conversations which mask a desire to move into the not so platonic space.
However, there are those moments that random brief encounters are used as reference and supporting points as to the supposed flirtation the other person thinks is happening between the two of us. The encounter in the parking lots in the mall is now seen as a perfect place to exchange digits. That's when "I'd like to know you better" and " You can't deny the chemistry between us" come in. You are left dazed and amazed by these worlds. I smile and hug most if not all my friends but why is this soul thinking that it's me being flirtatious.
Blushing and shocked, I walk away back to my existence where there is nothing wrong with being courteous and warm towards people and they don't think it's an invitation to starting something.
A few weeks later you meet again but this time things aren't so rosey. You are met with hostile look or even worse you are accused of playing hard to get and of being a shameless flirt or more intense a tease. Before you attached such a label on me did you ever stop to think that I'm just being friendly and if I were to be flirtatious you would know.
The world is a strange place where being a genuinely nice person is seen as others as a socially accepted cover for lack of a better word being: down right nasty. I guess some people aren't used to being showered with warm and friendly attention. Flirting is great and so being friendly.
Like all signals and messages some a clearer than others. Forgive me in advance if my friendly gestures are understood as flirting but if I am however flirting, let the games begin.
Tuesday, 5 June 2012
Day 19
Feeling a bit under the weather. I am armed with a box of tissues, bottle full of water and warm blankies ready to take on this full. I'm 7.1 kg lighter than when I started this detox. Craving some coca cola and hot wings!!!! *hides*
Saturday, 2 June 2012
Mr and Mrs Makhubalo's 30th Wedding Anniversary
I am one for big shows of affection and what's bigger than a 30 year anniversary. Dimpho dragged me off to Mr and Mrs Makhubalo's 30 Year Wedding anniversary in the leafy Suburb of Bayswater. We were ushered in by particularly friendly ladies who showed us our way to a beautifully decorated table: Table Number 14.
We were treated to a healthy serving of speeches on marriage and how to build long lasting ones. From the 8 Bridges of Long Lasting marriages to a humorous speech by Ntate Makhubalo's brother. I could help myself from laughing! That was a definite high point. My favourite speech of the night was Mom's Rosie's speech! Not in memory do I recall so moving and inspirational a speech. Her choices of words and emotions spoke volumes about the sort of person she is, her love for children, husband, family and friends. It nearly brought a tear to my eyes! Her kids have done her proud and I felt privileged to have shared such a wonderful experience with everyone that was there. I even adopted a cutie pie baby! Baby Kazimla! Wishing the happy couple many more years together!
So inspired to get married and love everyone wholeheartedly!
Food: 10 out of 10. We were spoilt for choice, well seasoned and generous portions. The cooling fresh and free flowing Juice was greatly appreciated as it kept us cool and hydrated during the ceremony. I love the Non Alcoholic sparkling juice.
Decor/Ambience: 10 out 10 Great guests who enjoyed the ceremony and were lively. I love the decor thanks to its african flair, the tent was cool during the afternoon and warm at night! I appreciated that!
Venue: 10 out of 10. It was held at the happy couple's magnificent matrimonial home
We were treated to a healthy serving of speeches on marriage and how to build long lasting ones. From the 8 Bridges of Long Lasting marriages to a humorous speech by Ntate Makhubalo's brother. I could help myself from laughing! That was a definite high point. My favourite speech of the night was Mom's Rosie's speech! Not in memory do I recall so moving and inspirational a speech. Her choices of words and emotions spoke volumes about the sort of person she is, her love for children, husband, family and friends. It nearly brought a tear to my eyes! Her kids have done her proud and I felt privileged to have shared such a wonderful experience with everyone that was there. I even adopted a cutie pie baby! Baby Kazimla! Wishing the happy couple many more years together!
So inspired to get married and love everyone wholeheartedly!
Food: 10 out of 10. We were spoilt for choice, well seasoned and generous portions. The cooling fresh and free flowing Juice was greatly appreciated as it kept us cool and hydrated during the ceremony. I love the Non Alcoholic sparkling juice.
Decor/Ambience: 10 out 10 Great guests who enjoyed the ceremony and were lively. I love the decor thanks to its african flair, the tent was cool during the afternoon and warm at night! I appreciated that!
Venue: 10 out of 10. It was held at the happy couple's magnificent matrimonial home
Wednesday, 30 May 2012
The Friend Zone
I like you and you like me but for some reason I've decided that we are better off as friends. The belief is that despite our chemistry and sexual energy bubbling at the brim, you'd make a great friend. Yes my friend who have just been placed in the friend zone.
Many dread and loath the place so much that they will vent to their friends and on social networks about their struggles as a resident of the friend zone. Those who find themselves in this space are teased by their friends and are constantly reminded of their position by articles such as these and little celebrations such as Friend Zone Monday. Phrases like "You are such a great friend" "You are like a sibling to me" "Our friendship matters more to me than a relationship between the two of us" Drive the stake a bit further.
Those in the friend zone have this idea that by being in the friend zone they have access to you in ways a lover wouldn't: which is true. It is the desired outcome that is the pickle. Most of the time the time you won't move from the friend zone to being a lover. Your backstage pass in not one into the objection of your interest's heart but a front row seat to a show called: "Someone else has what's mine". While you watch, observe, be the shoulder to cry on, in between platonic hugs and late night chats about their current beau/beauties is a soul filled with hope and a sense of failure.
The friend zone is a win win situation if you ask me. Those in the friend zone are not the victims they would like us to believe, they take pleasure in being enslaved by the object of their affections. If one is to die a slow death, why not do it at the hands of the one who tugs at your heartstrings. Secondly these friends get a sense of importance out of the whole thing, they love being needed and being that should to cry on.
If you are in the friend zone I would suggest you man up or woman up and ask your master to release you and take up the reigns. On the other hand if you have enslaved another, try a catch and release programme good for your urges and your slave's ego.
P.S To Those I have friend zoned I am sorry, it was unintentional.
Many dread and loath the place so much that they will vent to their friends and on social networks about their struggles as a resident of the friend zone. Those who find themselves in this space are teased by their friends and are constantly reminded of their position by articles such as these and little celebrations such as Friend Zone Monday. Phrases like "You are such a great friend" "You are like a sibling to me" "Our friendship matters more to me than a relationship between the two of us" Drive the stake a bit further.
Those in the friend zone have this idea that by being in the friend zone they have access to you in ways a lover wouldn't: which is true. It is the desired outcome that is the pickle. Most of the time the time you won't move from the friend zone to being a lover. Your backstage pass in not one into the objection of your interest's heart but a front row seat to a show called: "Someone else has what's mine". While you watch, observe, be the shoulder to cry on, in between platonic hugs and late night chats about their current beau/beauties is a soul filled with hope and a sense of failure.
The friend zone is a win win situation if you ask me. Those in the friend zone are not the victims they would like us to believe, they take pleasure in being enslaved by the object of their affections. If one is to die a slow death, why not do it at the hands of the one who tugs at your heartstrings. Secondly these friends get a sense of importance out of the whole thing, they love being needed and being that should to cry on.
If you are in the friend zone I would suggest you man up or woman up and ask your master to release you and take up the reigns. On the other hand if you have enslaved another, try a catch and release programme good for your urges and your slave's ego.
P.S To Those I have friend zoned I am sorry, it was unintentional.
Friday, 25 May 2012
Thursday, 24 May 2012
Day 6 of the 30 Day Detox
Day 6 suga!!! I have made it! Tomorrow is weigh in, I am confident and feeling more energised. My skin is still lagging behind :(. I guess I am a bit impatient with the whole idea. I am pleased with my new favourite treat Rooibos with no milk or sugar with lemon! I am keeping this even after this detox!
Wednesday, 23 May 2012
Day 5 of 30 Day Detox
Pheeuw!!! I have made to day 5 and goodness it's been a mission. I pleased with myself so far, looking forward to the end result which is healthier eating habits, glowing skin and weight loss. I spent last night and this morning at home: Home is my weakness because everything is in abundance, especially those delicious yet damaging winter comfort foods. I won't lie and say this detox will keep you full ( It definitely won't): The Extra space in your stomach is for water and air!!! Marching on(**,)
Tuesday, 22 May 2012
Relationship Agreement
I read with absolute pleasure that Facebook Billionaire Mark Zuckerberg and newly wed wife Priscilla Chan had a relationship contract when they moved in together. According to authors of various articles on the subject on the internet the two love birds probably had their lawyers hammer out the agreement. Their agreement is said to include the issues of personal time and living arrangements.
I wish I came up with such an agreement. The following would probably be some of my points
1. 1 Day a week is me day
2. Breakfast in bed on Saturdays
3. No going to bed angry
4. The bedroom is not an office nor is it a cinema. As a result no working and watching tv. Just sleeping and *@: *blush blush*
5. Where practical we have lunch together daily!
6. Each of us will learn the other's mother tongue.
7. My phone is my phone, your phone is our phone
8. 5 Days a week at least( We are all adults here! I hope ).
9. Communication is king
10. Everyday must have laughter, giggles, tickling, kisses and hugs.
Like all contracts my points are subject to agreement and compromise
I wish I came up with such an agreement. The following would probably be some of my points
1. 1 Day a week is me day
2. Breakfast in bed on Saturdays
3. No going to bed angry
4. The bedroom is not an office nor is it a cinema. As a result no working and watching tv. Just sleeping and *@: *blush blush*
5. Where practical we have lunch together daily!
6. Each of us will learn the other's mother tongue.
7. My phone is my phone, your phone is our phone
8. 5 Days a week at least( We are all adults here! I hope ).
9. Communication is king
10. Everyday must have laughter, giggles, tickling, kisses and hugs.
Like all contracts my points are subject to agreement and compromise
Day 4 of the 30 Day Detox
Day 4 is worse than day 1 for some weird reason! I just feel more tempted to have junk today. I had to get on the scale to get some motivation why I shouldn't have any McDees! 2.7kg lost compared to day 1 is enough reason to stay away from those Goldern Arches!! It's exceed my weekly target of 2kg per week!!! Eating healthy forces me to be creative with my vegetable and fruit combinations with Fish. Going home this afternoon armed with my cooler bag filled with veggies and lentils! Wish me luck!!!
Monday, 21 May 2012
Winter Love
It's that time of the year when everyone seems to be on the body warmth quest. They somehow forget about fleece blankets, quilts, long johns and many other man made sources of body warmth. As a friend of mine once said: Nothing Beats the warmth of a thick thigh on a chilly winter night, oh I love winter. It's the only time of year where one is forgiven for having extra padding! I wonder what's the modus operandi of operation get body warmth. What ges on in the mind of people on the hunt? Perhaps it's the same as the usual all time hunting. I hope everyone gets extra cosy and warm this winter whether you are alone in the bed like me or with someone, special or otherwise.
Sunday, 20 May 2012
30 Day Detox
Day 2 Of the 30 Day Detox!!! Day 1 was okay I guess, didn't think much about it because it was spent on the road and I was pretty busy! No Meat! No Dairy! No Caffeine! No Alcohol ( this is fine because it doesn't matter to me)! No processed Foods! No Raw Salt! No Fizzy Drinks! No Sugar! Had raw beetroot leaves! Keeping strong!
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