Baby I'm scared

Years gone past and you realised that in many respects you have progressed in your life, you are more independent than ever and you are building the foundation of your career.
For the most part this is a healthy situation and a positive one. We would all want to be on this path and progressing every year. A time will come when more and more people start asking about your relationship status and a form here and there will start questioning you. That menacing season will start and hopeful souls will start taking interest in you.

All of a sudden you realise that you are you as innocent and naïve as the day you were born. You are still single! Never Dated! Never had a fling! Never done nothing! Niks! Not everyone you meet wants to be your friend, some want to be more! In a moment of panic you start telling yourself that story you have been telling yourself all these years and as time goes on that story is losing its efficacy.

It's not about dropping one's unmentionables at the mere mention of "I love you" but developing a maturity that speaks to your basic need for companionship and developing a bond that's more erotic than platonic. You quickly realise that you didn't come about as a result of divine conception but a more emotional and physical one.

You concede that departing and arriving at airports with no one waving you goodbye and welcoming you back is not the most pleasant and practical of situations. Your skills were emotional maturity and agility are concerned are about as sharp as a balloon! Virtually nonexistent!!! You are not a nun nor are you a friar! Life long chastity and innocence does not mean life will do you any favours nor does it mean you are in any way better than anyone else.
Dating is not a bed of roses! You have to deal with Bubu's snoring and Shanaynay's monthly hormone induced tantrums. While all of this is happening, you have to change yourself to a more palatable partner, as well as honing your skills naughty or otherwise and you hope, pray that yours is not the straying type. It's a battlefield that needs constant fighting and work.
However, surely as the sun sets, dating will have its many rewards; for arming yourself, rolling up your sleeves and grabbing the shovel. Those who have braved the conquest of love will have earned the right to love and toe curling goodness. It's can't be all bad if so many people continue to give it a try after each failure.

I guess we all have to wear our big boy and big girl pants and face the reality of dating not because all your friends are dating, not because you feel uncomfortable with your own company: Because It's about Damn time!